The gentle breeze rustled the leaves of the ancient oak tree in Eleanor’s backyard, a comforting soundtrack to the quiet Connecticut morning. She was thinking about the day that she met Maria, a day that held a special significance for Eleanor.
Three years ago, Eleanor’s world had felt smaller and much grayer. Widowed and feeling lonely with less ease of mobility, she found herself withdrawing from the world she once loved. It was her concerned daughter, Sarah, who mentioned to her that the University of Connecticut had a home sharing program where students could rent space in someone’s home, and it would help the student afford their expenses and have someone around the house. Eleanor thought this sounded interesting and she had a separate guestroom with a small kitchenette that a student could use. She told her daughter that she would be interested in learning more about the option. Sarah got the information and covered it with her, and they agreed this would be a good option for her extra space. Sarah worked with Eleanor to fill out the paperwork and determine the details.
The big day came, and her first student was introduced. Maria was quiet and unassuming and came across as shy. She visited with Eleanor, and it was obvious from the start they were a good match. Eleanor welcomed Maria into her home with open arms, and soon, a comfortable rhythm settled between them. Every evening, Eleanor would prepare a small meal, just enough for two, and invite Maria to join her at the dining table. These meals became more than just a time to eat; they were a cherished ritual where stories were exchanged, and laughter became a frequent guest. Eleanor found herself looking forward to these moments, where the silence of her home was replaced with the warmth of conversation.
Maria, in turn, took great care in making sure Eleanor’s needs were met. She often checked in on Eleanor before heading off to class, making sure she was comfortable and had everything she needed. On weekends, Maria would bring back fresh flowers from the market or help Eleanor with small tasks around the house. Their relationship blossomed into something that was more than just a tenant-landlord arrangement; it was a true friendship, built on mutual respect and care.
As word spread among Maria’s friends about her living arrangement, other students became interested in the opportunity. Eleanor soon found herself with a steady stream of inquiries from students looking for a place to stay. Over the next few years, Eleanor hosted several students, each bringing their own unique energy and experiences into her home. This interaction with young, vibrant people reinvigorated Eleanor, filling her life with purpose and joy she hadn’t felt in years.
The once quiet and solitary house now buzzed with life. Eleanor’s days were filled with activity, from preparing meals to hosting study sessions in the living room. The students she hosted became like an extended family to her, bringing a sense of community that she had longed for since her husband’s passing. This new chapter in Eleanor’s life not only provided her with companionship but also rekindled her passion for life, reminding her that even in her later years, there was still so much to give and receive.
Some of her greatest joy came when students would come back for visits often bringing their spouses and children. It was a very special opportunity that was mutually beneficial to all who were involved.
As an Aging Life Care Manager®, connecting people in need with the resources they need is something I get to do every day. I love the work that I do, and I care deeply about my clients. If you or someone you know is struggling to bring balance back to their life as they age, please reach out. Together, we can improve the quality of life for aging adults that, like Eleanor, don’t know where to start or even what they may need exactly.